How I got over the fear of public speaking..

How I got over the fear of public speaking..

Back in school, whenever we had to make a talk in front of the class, I was petrified. Thinking back it feels a little funny considering that they were all familiar faces and friends. But it sure didn’t feel funny at the time. I can relate to the study which shows that fear of public speaking ranks above the fear of death..

I remember one time at secondary school I went purposely to bed with my hair wet and switched the a/c to freezing cold. I got sick and could stay at home, and was relieved because I skipped the book presentation in english class..

Fast forward around 8 years. I had just started over a month ago in my first business. We were just about to start our weekly seminar in Helsinki. I was just part of the audience. Or so I thought.

Just before the start of the seminar my mentor pulled me to the side and said that we have a situation before solution, one of the speakers called in sick. He continued – “I believe that you are ready to step in as a substitute”..

I could feel my heart almost jumping through my throat. My fingers started to sweat and I couldn’t breathe..

But I had learned that when you get an opportunity that gives you a chance to step up to the next level, you should say yes.

My mentor told me to relax because I had given the same talk in a one to one situation many times. He gave me a tip to concentrate on my breathing and he asked me to picture him in the audience as one big person and just look at him during my talk.

Coming on stage, I remember almost fainting. I don’t remember anything about my talk. But the audience gave me support and the feeling of euphoria after my talk was unexplainable. I got praise and constructive feedback from my mentor. I wanted more.

The next month I was organising my own seminars to my team and since then, I have been talking in front of smaller and bigger audiences constantly.

Even today before I go on stage, I have a bit of fear and I feel a bit nervous, but overtime I have learned to embrace it. And I love the adrenaline rush that kicks in during the talk. That’s a sign that even after fifteen years in the industry, I still love what I do and am constantly learning and growing to become better. ❤️

“All leaders have fear, they just have learned to act despite of it”.

The best thing about giving speeches is that the person giving the talk learns the most. 🌟

So the next time you are offered to give a talk and it feels super scary, just say yes. Everything will work out great and you will grow to become a better version of yourself. 🔥

If someone would have told me over twenty years ago, when I turned the switch in the a/c to freezing cold before going to bed, that in the future I would be giving keynote speeches to thousands of people internationally, I would have asked them to check their medication. 😁

“If somebody offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later!” ― Richard Branson.

#publicspeaking #practicemakesmaster #justdoit #zinzino

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Ramifications of quitting

Here are a few takeaways from my morning reading from the book PAiLS by Chris Brady about the power of Why and ramifications of quitting.

“He who has a Why to live for can bear almost any how” Friedrich Nietzsche.

🌟Motivation is your own responsibility.

🌟The main reason why people quit something worthy is the lack of a large enough dream.

🌟Don’t be tempted to trade in the long term great for a short term good.

🌟Quitting is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

🌟In order to accomplish our heart’s desires, we must continually boost our hunger to do so.

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily” Zig Ziglar.

 

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Why I love what I do..

Because I look better rich. And so do You 🔥🔥

“By helping others get what they want, we can get what we want”

What does becoming rich mean to me:

🌟 More Freedom
🌟 More Experiences with family and friends
🌟 More Time to do the things that I love
🌟 The Person I will grow into during the journey
🌟 Inspiring People all over the world to change their lives and go for their dreams ❤️

Stop living an average life or building an average business..

Have fun, Grow and Contribute 💙🔥🌍🌞

 

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The power of mentoring and what it means to me.

Do you want to reach the next level in any area of your life?

The key for me has been to find the right mentors who have made it in that area, live with heart and are all in. It’s important that they also share the right kind of ethics and culture.

I remember when I first met Ørjan at a seminar seven years ago. I was at my most desperate point when it came to my finances and relationship. At the same time I was hungry to get out of the mess. I had experienced some success in the past with a business similar to the one Ørjan was building but the company lacked the right kind of leadership, culture and vision. I also lacked focus and that was what had got me into the mess in the first place.

I remember Ørjan telling me in a polite but very confident way that I had been playing football (figuratively speaking) in the little leagues and if I wanted, he would teach me how to be a top scorer in the majors. I accepted the offer.

It hasn’t been an easy ride. Victory would never feel good if it was. Imagine fishing without having to wait for the fish to bite and without the fish having the strength to fight. That would at first feel like heaven but soon you would realise being in hell.

Big thanks Ørjan and Hilde for hosting me yesterday at your beautiful new home. My check up from the neck up was truly worth the wait. It’s amazing to see the impact you have had on thousands of lives and in return the impact it has had on your lives.

You guys continue inspiring me to contribute and grow. That’s what brings content and happiness. I’m continuosly surprised about your willingness to serve and how big heart and passion you guys have 💙❤️. You are living proof that service to many leads to greatness.

“I assure you that helping a million people will last longer than a million dollars and bring you more joy.”

I’m so grateful that you showed me the way and kept believing in me when I didnt believe in myself. We have walked the walked together from dream to struggle to even some victories. I’m forever grateful to you for helping me transform to the person I am today. To return the favour I promise that I will grow my teams customer numbers to six figures and beyond. 🔥💙🙏

We have so many amazing launches and news coming up in the next months that brings butterflies to my stomach.

“Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country” – John F. Kennedy

Bring it on! 💙🙏🔥

 

 

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My confidence wasn’t good growing up and it took me years to realize it..

Are you ready to go deep?

Let’s dive.

I want to start by saying that I’m forever grateful to my Dad for providing us a secure and “luxury” childhood in Dubai. I love you Dad. 

Having said that, he wasn’t around much growing up. In my first years I only saw him for glimpses every year. Even though family was important to him, he had me and my sister quite young. I really respect that he came from a poor family in Palestine and left his home and country at a very young age with little money in his pocket to pursue a brighter future. To some extent he really made it because we had all the material things one could wish for and I was lucky to go to private schools but we sadly lacked much of his presence growing up.

That took a toll on my confidence. I wanted attention and tried to figure out something that I was good at to make him proud. However, my biggest weakness has always been impatience. I’m still working on that every day. 🙂 If I wasn’t good at something very fast, I wanted to try something new. I also got bored fast. That’s probably why I never really excelled at any subject in school.

At some point in secondary school I started mucking about, getting in trouble by sometimes even being a bully. One day after bullying a kid and getting caught I almost got expelled from school. At least I had got my Dad’s attention for a moment. I still feel shame for that even twenty five years later.

I also lacked confidence around girls and as I was kind and shy around them but also a bit of a trouble maker (sorry Mum), I was fun to be around with but I guess most of them didn’t take me too seriously.

After school I played computer games and got very hooked on counter strike during my high school years. It was a way for me to escape reality and I also saw that I was finally pretty good at something. Unfortunately (and also maybe fortunately) at the time you couldn’t get payed for playing that. 😀

I was also partying quite hard on the weekends to escape reality even further.. In my first year of college, I attended school maybe a total of 20 times to only a handful of courses. Nothing excited me. If there would have been courses called “Success 1 and 2” – I would have signed up for both. 😀
I really had no clue what I wanted to be when “I grew up”..

I’m forever grateful to my good friend Juho for providing me with a sliding doors moment over fifteen years ago. He called me up and offered me to start working with him in a new business he was excited about. Nobody had ever offered me a business before and I even thought for a moment that why would someone want to work with a looser like me.

It was love at first sight and boy has this business turned my life around in all ways possible. Finally, I found something that was about building success through practice. I got introduced to a school of personal and life changing business development that was embedded in the opportunity. Through the business I found mentors and many new friends that helped me to be successful (through a lot of blood, sweat and tears) and walked with me side by side. I even found some new “father figures” who were there to help me grow and give me the attention I had always craved.

I had turned my negative addictions of partying and playing counter strike into one positive one. For the first time in my life I was good at something. I understood that now I had control of my future and that there was no limits. Fifteen years later, I’m still addicted to this game of helping people, contributing and always improving – Kaizen.

The best part in my business is that thanks to the time and money freedom I have managed to create, I can now be a more present father and example to my children that I missed growing up. 💙

Thank you for reading. Have a super successful week! 🙏🔥

What are you grateful for in your life or in your business?

I sometimes get so jaded at my life while working in my business and loose sight of the big picture..

Especially for us who have been working in the same industry for years..

Sometimes we only have tunnel vision and focus on the basics and daily tasks but forget the vision. That’s why we have to constantly keep the end in mind while putting first things first.

“Are you working in your business or ON your business?”

The key to success I have learned is to be able to see the big picture and think long term about where your business/life will be and how it will look like in example 5 years. Having said that, we also need to keep the main thing, the main thing which is work on the basics one step and goal at a time.

“Keep your eyes on the prize and don’t drop the ball”.

Every morning in my journal I write down 10 things that I’m grateful for in my business. That builds on my confidence. When we are grateful about the journey so far, we have more confidence that the big picture is being realised by working the daily activities. I see the gratitude list as a bridge between the long term vision and what is the most important thing we need to do today to get there. I also journal my goals for the next 3-5 years and then I write down my top goal for the day.

Here are my first three picks from Sunday morning. I will be posting the rest during next week.

1. I’m grateful to our business for bringing me together with Anita thirteen years ago.

I remember almost delegating the presentation to someone else as I was hungover and tired after a big event the previous night. Luckily I went to the meeting and met Anita on the other side of the table and it was pretty much love at first sight. 

2. Thanks to our business we both also fell in love with personal development and have immersed in always developing ourselves. I think the main reason why we got back together after the break up seven years ago was because of the personal growth we had gone through and the will to go to therapy, find a few mentors (special thanks to Suvi Bowellan ), read the right books (especially “the five love languages” by Gary Chapman) and learned how to listen and communicate better so we could go through all the hurdles. We understood that if we didn’t untie these knots now, then the same shadows would face us in our future/next relationships. It was a really tough time, most of our friends and family thought that it was going to be game over but love won and somehow we made it.

It’s sometimes very painful and difficult to step out of the comfort zone. Most people are scared of change. I am too and I face fear and doubt every single day. However thanks to daily personal growth I have learned to act despite of it.

As the saying goes, “if you want to see some changes in your life, you’re going to have to make some changes in your life”.

I have also learned that success and happiness is not at the destination but it really is the journey. Back in the days I was chasing the dream and the shiny object at the end of the rainbow but never finding long lasting happiness when reaching my goals. Today, after years of struggle and working more on myself than on my business, I’m living the dream and really enjoying the process.

3. I’m grateful to our business for giving me a chance to be more with my family. It’s awesome to be more present with my boys and watch them grow. I’m also grateful that I can bring my children to some of our events that talk about personal growth, entrepreneurship and leadership through very inspiring, influencing and impacting stories. Seeds of greatness have been planted to their minds from early age.

Thank you for reading and stay tuned for more.

Happy Sunday evening and I wish you all the success for the new week!

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